Welcome to Polytopia! We have mostly finished moving house, and I have been busy! A big part of living with people is negotiation and awareness, and I thought I would share my new housemate worksheets! I am pretty excited about them as it’s something I love doing – communicating and caring for the people I love.
The worksheets are designed to be as generic as possible. There’s space for every one’s name, plus a space to draw your own stick figure, and as many general take away types as I could think of. Feel free to download and use at will!
How to Use this Worksheet
Get your housemates to fill it out, and keep it in a folder. If you’re technically savy, every one can take a photo of the finished sheets, or else someone can upload the data to a shared document system like Google Drive. If a housemate is driving home and decides to purchase dinner, they can sms every one to ask if they are in, and if they are in but can’t respond in a timely fashion, or a partner is making decisions and is unsure, they can use the worksheet to find out the incommunicado housemate’s preferences.
This is also useful for making hot drinks and meals depending on your housemate situation.
If you have any questions or suggestions for more worksheets, then let me know! This here is an earlier version of the worksheet. Click on it to download the prettier version!
A worksheet to help navigate housemates likes and preferences when they are out of contact
Sarah P on a sweltering day, having spent 90 minutes in the hairdressers getting an awesome trim and new colour.
I have a new haircut and a new House Book! We had one at the previous house for years until it fell apart, and I never put it back together again because by then we were well settled. With a new suburb however, we get to discover all the things!
A house book is a collection of whatever information is needed for the household. My house books tend to get a little too organized (if there is such a thing!) with contents pages and character sheets and maps of the linen cupboard arrangement… Important things! The original house book came about because I was trying to document all the household processes so that when we had kids, any one who came over could help pick up things that I had dropped such as food shopping or meal planning or cooking. My house book had monthly meal plans with worksheets for budget as well as snack and meals. (Have you noticed I like to make worksheets yet?)
So with a new house we build a new Housebook. This takes a bit of time and effort, but as a process it’s well worthwhile. The first thing we have done is started collecting flyers from all the local resturaunts. The new suburb has a shopping centre on the main entrance with Indian, Chinese, Fish and Chips, Kebabs, and a Subway, so the first Housemate Worksheet will cover the preferences we all have for these restaurants. The page you can see through the cover is currently the local butcher’s bulk buy specials, which look amazingly good.
I make these worksheets to aid in communication. I have realised that people still care but the ways we show our caring of our
The beginning! My actual baby House Book! Cover page will be made shortly. :)
friends and of each other seems to be a lost art. For example in the past when people suffered trauma or troubles, friends would bring food or help out to try and make things a little easier. These days when I offer to bring a meal to help people, friends often seem a bit confused or lost by the idea. I don’t know if they realise how much stress can be relieved when you have a home cooked nutritious meal in the freezer made by people who love you. I am trying to show people how I like to care for my friends, and hope that others can use these worksheets too.
So I hope you enjoy the gradual development of my Housebook as it grows. I also hope I give you some ideas on how you’d like to run your own household. Is there anything about your household that irks you, upsets you or makes you wish for a change?
As has become my tradition, (thanks to my friend Trancendancing), rather than making specific resolutions I have been pondering my ‘theme’ for 2014. Reflecting on past themes, such as last years ‘simplicity’, it struck me that over the last few years there has been an underlying attempt to tone myself down. This year I am challenging that undertone–while simplicity and frugility etc are all worthy things, and I don’t regret the steps I have taken to incorporate them into my life–I am choosing a theme this year that celebrates all that I am and all I have to give. I am looking to cast off any lingering self perceptions of being ‘too much’, the idea that I am too greedy, too selfish, too ungrateful, too fat, too hordy, too loud, too out there, too too tooo much. It is true that I am a lot. But never too much. And nor are any of us.
My antidote to this is to celebrate my abundance. Not selfishly, but joyfully and gratefully and sharingly. I have considered themes of luxury and abundance but have decided that this years winner will be pleasure. To actively and consciously do things that please me. as Trancendancing says–you will know you have the right theme when it attracts you but also makes you feel uncomfortable. I must admit the idea of doing things just because they are pleasurable does make me squirm. Why? I guess I have a year to find out. So what brings me pleasure? I can’t wait to see.
Happy New Year Everybody,
love, Sarah X.
Merry Christmas to every one!
I have nothing deep nor interesting to say, just a pleasant good will and happiness that I’d like to share. You are all dear to my heart, and I am so glad you have come through this year with me. Hope you stick around for another ten!
This year has been huge. Two new jobs, moving house, all the stuff that goes on under the surface with that… and it’s not quite over yet. Public speaking, self development, A week or two more and we’ll be in our new digs and a new era will begin. This year has been the first where I have felt really free to buy the presents I want for people and take great pleasure in the giving side of things. Next year hopefully I will get to make more stuff and shape a wonderful Christmas for all of us!
Between Christmas and New Years is my liminal space. We go down to DH’s parents’ place and lie on the deck and think. This is the time where I sit down and reflect on the year just gone, and start to map out the year coming. It’s going to be massive once again, with two girlie trips to Melbourne already in the works, a women’s retreat in the planning, and a big adventure for 2015. A lot of the finer details are amorphous I have a wonderful job that I am loving to bits, and working very hard to be awesome at.
Hope every one is having a lovely Christmas. I’ll be posting again later with as I countdown to my downtime! I’ll be heading down on Friday but already I can feel the thoughts in my subconscious moving like the behemoths they are, unsettled and curious and preparing to be rearranged.
One of the first things I have started to do… is look over my workbooks from planning out 2013.
Last Year’s Planner, all filled out but still beautiful! And you can still buy last year’s for only $9.95
Me with Sexy New Haircut
I have been so busy of late! Gosh! One way to get things done is definitely to ask a busy woman!
In saying I have been busy, I have also been getting organized to launch an amazing new year. My Year of Change will finish in about early February, and then I expect a Year of Growth.
So what’s changed this year?
- We made a firm decision to move house.
- We are moving into Michael’s house and we’re terribly excited about it all
- We need to paint Michael’s house before I will let the kids live in it
- I decided we needed some stability in the job arena so I got a job
- and then I got a better job
- Packing and painting is my life
- New school for kids
- Re-homing three not-lap cat kitties.
- Speaking gigs for writing
- I cut all my hair off!
This is all just the stuff from the last few months! Another big thing for me is that I have become an affiliate member of Leonie Dawson’s Amazing Life and Biz Academy! I’m super excited about this. I have used Leonie’s workbooks for the last two years to plan, sort and develop my plans in both my home life and my business life, and I’m going to step every one through my process this year when I do it yet again!
I have the last two year’s workbooks already at hand, and in the week between Christmas and New Year I allocate a lot of time to sitting around and pondering and processing the years that have gone and then leading into the year that is coming. Leonie’s workbooks have helped me to shape my experiences of the past as well as form my visions of the future, and actually going back and looking at what parts worked and what parts didn’t is a crucial part of getting where you want to be. I do get a kickback if you buy through me, or join the Academy through my link, which is awesome, but the best thing is that these work books below? Are less than $10 for the e-Book version! Cheap and f*cking awesome! What more could you want? :p
So join in my next big adventure – Pondering, Processing and Planning 2014! Click below and lets get started!
Leonie Dawson’s Amazing Business and Life Workbooks
Last Saturday I went to the Mundijong Library to meet new friends, inspire them and get them writing! And I think I am safe to say I was in good form too LOL
We had four ladies come in for a 10am session, which I thought were excellent numbers, plus several of the librarians were listening in and being inspired too! As it was a small group, I was intending for a workshop feel, addressing individual concerns and issues that people may have come across.
I asked every one in the group why they were here, and through this we explored every one’s hopes and intentions with writing, and then lead into the things that are stopping them from writing. I’m excited to say that each of these women had amazing and awesome stories to tell, they just needed that little bit of oomph to get it going! once we started talking the stories poured out, stories of war and travel and disease, love and loss and heartbreak, pivotal life choices.
I love inspiring people to do what they want to do, and Saturday morning was a huge success! If you need help blitzing your writing blocks, then talk to me! I specialise in breaking down barriers gently and with love. I want you to be in as in love with your every day as much as I am!
Email me today to ask for more info on my Block Blitzing sessions!
I love it.
I was asked to do some talking recently for the Friend of the Library in Mundijong on my adventures as an author. I did take pains to let them know that my publish list is fearfully small compared to many authors in Perth, but they were still excited about the things I could bring to the evening. I was slightly nervous.
I speak a lot at places like Swancon, and I love that too, but this was a whole new audience. I had only met one person before, and she was the person who suggested me! With her supportive smile, and my enthusiasm for my topic, I had a great time and so did my audience!
Starting with a brief introduction, I kept the talk free form but focused very firmly on writing. The audience mostly dictated where we wandered, as the questions were fascinating and interesting, and who knows where they might lead? I talked about planning and pantsing, ideas and Nanowrimo, development of structure and characters.
One of the key topics I talked about was Nanowrimo. I discussed how I came into Nanowrimo, and the mental hurdles and blocks Nanowrimo helped me to overcome. Writing is a passion for me, and inspiring others to write and be creative is such an exciting experience.
I have been asked if I’d like to do more public speaking and the answer is a very definite YES! If you’d like to see me in action, then watch this space, because I’ll be publicizing everything on this blog. I know I keep using the word “exciting” but this is! I felt reasonably confident but a little nervous, and now I am so excited, I have volunteered to run some Pre-Nanowrimo discussions to help people understand what Nanowrimo is, and what it can do for you, and offer coping strategies to ponder on before the actual event begins. Mundijong Public Library in conjunction with Armadale, Gosnells and Victoria Park Libraries has lots of great ideas for this year’s Nanowrimo, and were full of praise for Lee Battersby’s efforts down in Rockingham. So if you’re thinking of joining up this year, then let me know! Come along to one of the organized events and say hi!
After the discussion I was given a gorgeous scented candle and a book of inspirational quotes.
I love parties! (Is that really a surprise?) I love seeing people, I love feeding people and I love getting dressed up, and sometimes parties are just *magic.*
Me in a Pink Corset after a few Pink Gins
Boyfriendly One decided to have a birthday party but he left the finer details to the women important to him in his life. Was this a wise decision? From my point of view, I’d say hell yeah!
From his… not so sure he’ll let us do that again! A lot of ideas were thrown around, and in the end someone got a bit carried away and declared it to be a Pink Party. Then updated the FB page to be all pinkified and with Hello Kitty theme. Then some others of us got even more carried away and made it a PINK GIN PARTY! We even had a poll and everything to whip up some enthusiasm!
PINK GIN RECIPE! This is a bit of a bastardization of the Pink Gin recipe from Taste.com.au but it’s my bastardization… and it worked really well. This version has the same sort of proportions and was very popular. A lot of people who said they didn’t like gin really liked this cocktail.
- 350 mls Gin (half a bottle, we used Gordons)
Pink Gin Cocktail
- 1 L Cranberry Juice (nice and tart for the tarts)
- 1 Litre Lemonade
- 4 Lemons or 2 Lemons and 2 Limes cut to look pretty
- 250grams of frozen Raspberries
Mix and serve! Yay!
One thing I learned is that sometimes if you have the right theme and excitement, an idea can catch like wildfire. A bunch of silly suggestions morphed into a party that had a lot of little ways we could make the theme work, plus gave people lots of leeway to play around and join in. We ended up with lots of bottles of gin, most of the attendees wearing pink in some form, a number of pink wigs, a corset of two, some great hats and an awesome party!
Pink Corset Cake Deconstructed
Pink Corset Cake
So how have things been going in the Saucy Sarah P household?
On My Way to Work
Things have changed a lot around here in the last year. I knew this was coming, so we battened down the hatches mentally and prepared our family for the changes that came through. We’ve gone from a zero income family in January, where we were on Centrelink for six weeks, through to now, where both adults have full time jobs and our tax refunds have pushed our savings higher than they have ever been. The only time we have ever had this much money in our account has been when we re-negotiated the mortgage to fix something big. We have actual savings in the thousands. When I try to explain this to people, I cry. And I’m trying not to cry right now telling you all about this!
Meal planning and very tight budgeting got us through the Centrelink time without any debt, and my income this year was low enough that 100% of my taxes were returned to me. The shock for us was that when our tax returns were completed, this also meant that the Family Allowances for the past year were re-calculated. My tax return of $1600ish brought friends. Thousands of friends. Suddenly, our first goal is complete, and we are well on our way to the second goal.
- Goal 1: Buffer of 3 Months Survival- Status – Complete
- Goal 2: Renovations to House, moving expenses – Status 33% complete
- Goal 3: New Car – Status (on hold pending move)
There are still a lot of big choices out there in my near future, and I’m researching ways to make the most of the gifts we have been given. So much potential! So many options! Watch this space as I start to explore what the new financial status of our household means to me, and while we prepare for a new future in a new suburb with new people close to our hearts. <3
Financial lessons are hard ones to learn. It seems the only way to learn is by doing – and in the real world I have children and partners I support a life with, and don’t want to risk any of that.
The game ‘Cashflow’ is designed by Robert Kiyosaki of Rich Dad Poor Dad fame, and is designed to help you understand the way cash works in our current system.
Half the fun is playing some one else’s life, and trying to struggle along with debts and issues that you feel you have no control over, mixed in with interesting possibilities that you can find in your normal life. Plus you can play the same character each time and have very different results.
We had a lot of fun playing it. I’ll do a more in depth report later!